Empathy, Sympathy and being an Empath

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Most people in this world can sympathize with others by feeling compassion, sorrow or pity for hardships in life.  Empathizing takes more work and inner reflection. To be empathetic, one must put themselves entirely in another’s shoes.

Okay, now that we’ve cleared that up.  Do you ever find yourself feeling things that might not be yours?  Your day starts off great and later you are in a bad mood, but nothing happened to change it.  You are in a room full of people and start feeling nervous, angry, feelings that are not your own?

You could be absorbing the energies of the world and others around you.   You are not supposed to absorb their problems, you are just supposed to put yourself in their shoes. Over-empathizing much or is it something more?

I do this quite often.  In reading and talking to people around me, I am finding that I am an Empath, not just sympathetic and empathetic person.

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Jenn, you are so full of it!  Empath!? No seriously, we are out there.  I am not a magical unicorn or a wizard. 😉   But because of my sensitivity and observation, I quite often feel things that I have realized are not mine to feel!!

Empaths are usually:

  • highly sensitive
  • absorb other people’s emotions
  • introverted (become overwhelmed in crowds)
  • highly intuitive
  • need alone time
  • become overwhelmed in intimate relationships
  • are targets for energy vampires
  • become replenished in nature
  • have highly tuned senses
  • have huge hearts but sometimes give too much

Trying to sort out what feelings are mine and what are others’ is a little messy but it can be done with time and patience.  I all to often feel things that others around hold inside.  Usually, I can sense things those closest to me are feeling, without them even speaking to me.  And with strangers, it will manifest as an “I like them but…” or “There is just something I can’t put my finger on.”

If you feel like this, you may be taking on the energies of everything around you, including the world.  Who wants the weight of the world on their shoulders?  Not I!!!

I do not have a lot of information to offer because I am still in the midst of this journey.  I journal and blog to write out my thoughts and then try to identify what is actually mine.  This does help me to organize the chaos in my head.  Acknowledging that you are an Empath or just overly empathetic is also important so you can find your direction.

Talking to other Empaths is a great way to feel validated.  I can tell you that you are not alone in feeling these things.  There are so many of us sensitive feeling people out there.  In a harsh cold world, it can feel sad, hopeless and just plain shitty but know it is not!!!

Stop, breathe, and know it is okay.   We will work through all of these things together.  If you have any input to add, please message me.  I have included a link about Empath’s and how they unknowingly draw bad mojo and Narcissists to themselves.

Until next time.  You are not alone — J

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“Signs, Signs Everywhere are Signs…”

Mental health is no joke and should be talked about and taught every day not only for one week of the year!

One of the reasons for this blog is to help me deal better with depression.  To do that,  I must speak about very personal problems.  One of the most personal: my depression diagnosis.  I am NOT ashamed of it because at least the “crazy” in my head finally has a name. It did, however, take me a long time to recognize the signs, get help and be where I am today, healing.

Depression is not a one-size-fits-all pair of boxers!  It affects people in different ways, and not everyone exhibits or even allows you to see their signs.  You may actually be shocked at the people you know with depression/anxiety!

Here are a few signs to look for that I personally have experienced:

Avoiding social situations

Are you avoiding parties, dinner with good friends, stores or people?  Have you been making excuses not to go places?  You might be doing this to avoid people for unknown reasons or to keep yourself isolated in a familiar place/situation.

Avoidance of family/friends

Avoiding contact especially physically, not taking and returning phone calls, inability to let anyone in more than on a superficial level.  Sometimes you are afraid to bother people or bring them down into your sadness.

Losing interest in hobbies

When a hobbyist stops engaging in there hobby, there might be a problem.  Lack of interest can be within any realm of life, not just hobbies but many times hobbies will lose their luster and seem more like a chore.

Being Blue or Down

Normal bad days or sadness not applicable here.  Cloud over your head that will not go away?  Shoulders burdened from the weight of the world? If your sadness is lasting for days with no end or reason, you might need help.  People stuck here cannot always recognize it or help that they are “negative.”

Lack of Self-Care

If you cannot remember the last time, you showered, brushed your teeth or ate something– you’re not alone.  I have been there.  Some days the smallest things seem impossible.

Mood Swings

Well hello, Satan!  Hi there Big Crybaby?  Mood flux, much? Finding your moods fluxing is a huge sign to watch.  Crying at anything, being overly sensitive, going from sad to happy or even feeling empty can all be signs.

I am not an expert on this topic.  I am just living and learning from therapy, blogging, research and fellow sufferers like you.  If someone is showing a few of these signs they may be suffering, silently or openly with depression.

Be Kind!  Reach out but be gentle and watch for non-verbal clues.  Sometimes people really want help they just do know how to admit it.

Until next time, you are not alone.  –J

Sometimes, Ya Just Gotta Laugh.

Good Morning and Happy Saturday!  What is going through my demented mind today?!  Oh yeah…

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Flying Weiners spotted in Philadelphia!

Have you ever heard the adage: There’s no crying in baseball?

Well, my favorite Philadelphia Phillie, the Phanatic, tested this theory the other night.  When I saw the video of a Philadelphia Phillies fan getting hit in the face with a hot dog,  I’m not gonna lie up in here, I laughed so freaking hard I cried.

That’s right, not only did she take a weiner to the face ladies and gentleman, she received a black eye from her glasses, did not catch said Weiner and she made me cry.  So there is crying in baseball!!!  But it’s all good because I’m sure she will get some free seats in the 300 level and an autographed Phillie Phanatic hat. 🙂

Because at the end of the day, shit happens, and sometimes ya just gotta laugh.  That’s another human trait shared across the board humiliation and humor at others’ expense.  Sorry Kathy McVay but thank you so much for that well-needed and perfectly timed laugh.  I will return the favor when I fall down later this week in a crowd.  😉

Karma will reach me at some point for giggling, but that was a well-needed giggle.  Karma, she is such a wench.  But one thing about her; she is consistent!  Unlike most other women!!!   I try to impart some of my wisdom to others and Karma is one I have a few clues on.

~~She is consistent.  She will send you what you put out to the World.  She will always find you.  She calls people on their shit.  She is a she for a reason!!~~

As you go about your day keep a few things in mind:

  1. The Phillie Phanatic is a Badass
  2. Karma is a Bitch
  3. Laughing at another’s expense although funny, probably not the best idea because of Karma.  Try to be a better human Jenn.
  4. Beware of flying WEINERS!

Remember until next time, you are not alone!  J

 

Why Hello There Summer.

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Happy Summer Solstice Everyone!

Okay, so, this morning at 6:07 am Eastern, Summer arrived.  Well, what does that mean for all of us? And why should we care, I thought this post was about self-help?  I’m also a teacher guys, sorry!  I love to share information I can find!

The summer solstice begins when the tilt of Earth’s axis is most inclined towards the sun directly above the Tropic of Cancer. The winter solstice, which falls on Friday, Dec. 21 this year, is the exact opposite. Today is the longest day of the year and it also marks the beginning of winter for the Southern Hemisphere.  Cool, huh?!

If perhaps, you are reading this from the Arctic Circle, you will not see the sunset but a few minutes today.  So to all of you, enjoy, put on some sunscreen and pull the blinds tonight for bed!

Many countries around the world have celebrations for solstice.  Sweden celebrates Midsummer, or summer solstice, by dancing around Maypoles and drinking. Slovakia celebrates Kupala or cupid night.  And we can’t forget Stonehenge, one of the largest celebrations in the world; thousands gather to welcome the solstice and get married.

The term solstice derives from Latin “sol” meaning “sun” and “sistere” which means “to make stand.”  My advice, go stand in the sun!  Sounds close enough.

Anywho, today, in PA we will get approximately 15-15.5 glorious hours of Vitamin D!  Use this gloriously long day, to go soak in some sunshine, revel in the beauty of nature and listen to the songs of the birds.  Nature has a really strange and easy way of making you feel oneness instead of aloneness.

Until next time-J

 

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