Welcome to the 1st Wednesday of 2019!

Happy 1st Hump Day of 2019!

I know many of you may be back to work after a few days off but…at least it’s Wednesday!  Make the best of making money today. 🙂

New Year’s Day is always a day of reflection, eating pork and sauerkraut, being lazy, family, football, and the Rose Parade for me.  I still find my inner kid being sad that the big holiday season is gone already.  That is something that never seems to change.

I am hoping that 2019 brings wonderful things for this Earth and all of us.

 

Remember, you are NOT alone!! Until next time– Jenn 💜😋☀️🐾

 

“Signs, Signs Everywhere are Signs…”

Mental health is no joke and should be talked about and taught every day not only for one week of the year!

One of the reasons for this blog is to help me deal better with depression.  To do that,  I must speak about very personal problems.  One of the most personal: my depression diagnosis.  I am NOT ashamed of it because at least the “crazy” in my head finally has a name. It did, however, take me a long time to recognize the signs, get help and be where I am today, healing.

Depression is not a one-size-fits-all pair of boxers!  It affects people in different ways, and not everyone exhibits or even allows you to see their signs.  You may actually be shocked at the people you know with depression/anxiety!

Here are a few signs to look for that I personally have experienced:

Avoiding social situations

Are you avoiding parties, dinner with good friends, stores or people?  Have you been making excuses not to go places?  You might be doing this to avoid people for unknown reasons or to keep yourself isolated in a familiar place/situation.

Avoidance of family/friends

Avoiding contact especially physically, not taking and returning phone calls, inability to let anyone in more than on a superficial level.  Sometimes you are afraid to bother people or bring them down into your sadness.

Losing interest in hobbies

When a hobbyist stops engaging in there hobby, there might be a problem.  Lack of interest can be within any realm of life, not just hobbies but many times hobbies will lose their luster and seem more like a chore.

Being Blue or Down

Normal bad days or sadness not applicable here.  Cloud over your head that will not go away?  Shoulders burdened from the weight of the world? If your sadness is lasting for days with no end or reason, you might need help.  People stuck here cannot always recognize it or help that they are “negative.”

Lack of Self-Care

If you cannot remember the last time, you showered, brushed your teeth or ate something– you’re not alone.  I have been there.  Some days the smallest things seem impossible.

Mood Swings

Well hello, Satan!  Hi there Big Crybaby?  Mood flux, much? Finding your moods fluxing is a huge sign to watch.  Crying at anything, being overly sensitive, going from sad to happy or even feeling empty can all be signs.

I am not an expert on this topic.  I am just living and learning from therapy, blogging, research and fellow sufferers like you.  If someone is showing a few of these signs they may be suffering, silently or openly with depression.

Be Kind!  Reach out but be gentle and watch for non-verbal clues.  Sometimes people really want help they just do know how to admit it.

Until next time, you are not alone.  –J

Finding Hope and a Smile On a Bad Day

 

What happens when you lose hope and inspiration seems so far away?

It is so easy to get lost in negativity, pain, sadness, and darkness.  This world can be such a cruel, harsh place.  But…it is so utterly gorgeous and to think it was made for all of us to enjoy and share.   So awesome!

Many humans know that feeling of hopelessness and needing inspiration.  You know the one: nothing is good enough, the sky is not blue, my pain is worse than anyone’s ever, why would my God allow terrible things to happen.  Sound familiar?  Anything can get you into the blues, it does not take much, and there are days it is hard to see the beauty, hope, positivity, and inspiration this world has to offer.

This is when you need to look for the smallest hidden gems. Whatever those may be to you.  For me, I try to watch the birds, listen to the ocean, play with my cats, or sit out on the porch and listen to nature.  Sometimes those things are just not enough. Here is a collage of pictures I’ve taken for inspiration for you!!

 

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***All photos here and above except pepper taken by Jenn Freese

 

When you find yourself stuck in the lonely darkness, try stepping back and looking at your situation as though you were an outsider.  Or you can even reach out to a good friend and have them help get you out of that funk.  When all else fails, look for something small.  Baby steps, although short in distance, still arrive at the destination!!!

Remember: even the happiest, most successful people have bad days!  Some of your days will be crappy, and some will be wonderful but try not to let what is going on dictate your day and mood.  You can change your mind, you ALLOW others to affect you.  Look to the good and positive as much as possible because what you look for and put out to the universe you will receive two-fold.

If you cannot find hope and inspiration from others or within, be the inspiration.  Make a positive difference in someone’s day, it will make you feel better.  Say a kind word, hold a door, start a blog, let someone know they are not alone.  Sometimes we need to be the leaders even though it’s scary.  As humans, we need to practice inspiration, kindness, love, and acceptance every day.

Because only by practice can we even strive to be better but never perfect.

Kindness is a muscle. The more we use it, the more it grows!” –David J. Flood

Until next time–J

 

Why Hello There Summer.

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Happy Summer Solstice Everyone!

Okay, so, this morning at 6:07 am Eastern, Summer arrived.  Well, what does that mean for all of us? And why should we care, I thought this post was about self-help?  I’m also a teacher guys, sorry!  I love to share information I can find!

The summer solstice begins when the tilt of Earth’s axis is most inclined towards the sun directly above the Tropic of Cancer. The winter solstice, which falls on Friday, Dec. 21 this year, is the exact opposite. Today is the longest day of the year and it also marks the beginning of winter for the Southern Hemisphere.  Cool, huh?!

If perhaps, you are reading this from the Arctic Circle, you will not see the sunset but a few minutes today.  So to all of you, enjoy, put on some sunscreen and pull the blinds tonight for bed!

Many countries around the world have celebrations for solstice.  Sweden celebrates Midsummer, or summer solstice, by dancing around Maypoles and drinking. Slovakia celebrates Kupala or cupid night.  And we can’t forget Stonehenge, one of the largest celebrations in the world; thousands gather to welcome the solstice and get married.

The term solstice derives from Latin “sol” meaning “sun” and “sistere” which means “to make stand.”  My advice, go stand in the sun!  Sounds close enough.

Anywho, today, in PA we will get approximately 15-15.5 glorious hours of Vitamin D!  Use this gloriously long day, to go soak in some sunshine, revel in the beauty of nature and listen to the songs of the birds.  Nature has a really strange and easy way of making you feel oneness instead of aloneness.

Until next time-J

 

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The Journey Begins

Thanks for joining me! My name is Jenn and I’m a 39-year-old living in a small town in Pennsylvania.  I am not claiming to know anything here or to be a professional but I get it.  Life can be hard even when it seems like everything is going great.  But keep something in mind…you are NEVER alone.  I wish I would have known that so many times when my world was unraveling around me.

I have struggled with depression most of my life.  As a teen, I don’t think I understood what I was feeling, let alone, why I was feeling it.  I think that was the hardest time because no one around me really understood what was going on.  See, if you have never dealt with depression, you really don’t get it.  How can someone be sad all the time?  The answer is…I have no idea and feel ashamed because of it.  But I’m here to tell you not only are you NOT alone, and it will get better with time and some work.  Oh, another thing that helps is getting older cause kids can be mean.

I’m an only child so most of my woes would be heard by the parental units or my friends but I like most people would internalize.  No one wants to hear you whine.  Everyone is busy with their own lives.  I don’t want to bother anyone.  Sound familiar??!  STOP making excuses for everyone around you and ask for help.  Talk.  Find a person you trust, it doesn’t matter who they are or what they do!  We are out there.  Honestly, there are so many people who feel just like you do even if their lives seem completely different.  If you feel like an anomaly, freak, weirdo, or even the most “normal” person out there, you can feel alone.

My goal for this blog is to let you know you are not alone.  We are out there and we can help each other through this thing we call life.  Be kind, you just never know what is going on in someone else’s life!!!  Until next time–J

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

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