A friend of mine sent me this quote today. My oh my, how I love Maya! I had never heard of this one before, and I love it.
Life can creep up on us quickly! Smooth waters can turn into raging tides in the blink of an eye. Nature gave us an example of this yesterday in Branson, MO when a seemingly uneventful Duck boat ride on a placid lake, turned into a death show. God bless all of you! Sometimes things happen so fast we cannot even catch our breaths.
When things feel out of control we need to breathe, focus and realize what we need to do first. I usually stress-out, hyperventilate, eat, scream and say the first thought in my head. Unlike the Life cereal slogan, Do NOT be like Mike, or in this case Jenn.
Why do we go to anger or not dealing with things? People go into different modes when confronted with life and all of us are so different Why do we let words fly when we should reason through our thoughts and then speak? I go to anger because it is safe. It is familiar. It protects me in a warped sort of way; even though it truly does not. Anger for me is a constant something in the forefront; however, it is seldom addressed, and that is why for me it is the first thing to fly!
If you pretend not to be something, you can still become that thing. Does that make sense? Okay for me, I have anger because I have a leg, back injury and undiagnosed pain that has limited my life experiences for 6 years. Instead of dealing with these changes and adjusting my lifestyle, I have let it (my injury) define me. So, I understand why my knee-jerk reaction is anger. I am not justifying it, only stating it.
Do you have a go-to emotion? One that jumps out at you or others? Do you have a knee-jerk reaction instead of letting things settle first? I just started learning about the Languages of Love in therapy. I do not know much about the languages, but I do know that I do not always react with anger. I react with love, compassion, gift giving, physical love, etc… I feel that most of us love on so many levels and that love also includes our self-love. 🙂
I have not yet begun to read my book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, yet but I cannot wait to learn new ways to help love last and succeed. Love is love and should be worked on in all of our meaningful relationships. I cannot wait to read about the secret to love, how to communicate and how to help love last. Because who of us cannot use a good love story??!! 🙂 Oh, that is not what this is, dammit!!