Sandpiles and Dunes: One Week In

Happy One Week Anniversary SoulNotAlone.com!!

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Sandpiles are merely a pile of sand.

Dunes are hills/ridges of sand piled by the wind usually large in size.

Being a lover of the beach, I thought it would be fun to use beach terms.

The sand piles in life are the everyday things, small goals, work week the “small things” as we call them.  The dunes are the milestones, hurdles in life; moving to another state, marriage, 21st bday, these are usually your most easily remembered memories.

We all have sandpiles and dunes in our lives.  I am delighted to reach my one week anniversary with my blog.  It may be a sandpile in your mind. However, I see this as one of my dunes.  It is a very new hobby, a form of therapy, a leap of faith and a way to let others know they are not alone.

As a fellow human, you understand how differently we view things.  When put into the same situation people have been known to recall different things happening.  The brain cannot always process what it is your seeing, and your recall may not be the real story. Add opinions, moods, and life, and it is easy to see how perceptions can be skewed.

At therapy on Monday, my Therapist said: “Perception is Reality!”

WOW!  That is huge and so true.  How you perceive your surroundings is your truth/reality/what is in your head.  Sometimes perception is not always the truth of the Universe, another person or even what you “truly” believe to be true.

Has a friend or family member ever given you a reality check on this subject?

I have many people that have talked to me about this subject lately.  When you get checked by a friend try to take a look at yourself.  Take a small step back to see if your perception is being swayed by your mood, others, social media, work or family.  If that is not where the problem lies, ask your friend to help you see things in a different light.  We are allowed to see things differently.  We are allowed to argue but must be respectful and open-eared.

One thing we need never do…discount someone’s problems.  Please, please do not do this it can be unknowingly devastating.  Words, opinions, and perceptions can indeed make or break a person.  It is not your place to discount someone’s sandpiles and dunes.

Only you can define your life experiences.  If you do not agree with someone’s decisions, that is okay.  But try to be open and encouraging and never force your views onto others. Sometimes listening to another’s story and empathizing can make you open up and experience new and wonderful things.

The vital thing to remember is that we are all different, but we are still human.  We do not need to see each others’ perceptions as our own, but we do need to try to be kind, open minded and never dismissive of other’s life journeys.  You never know if life will throw a curveball and change your way of perceiving and defining sandpiles and dunes.

Until next time, you are not alone — Jenn